Or at least Authenticity is not JUST speaking from the heart…
If you paid any attention at all to the 2016 US election, chances are you heard the work “authenticity” come up regarding the two final candidates. Trump was anointed as authentic, while Clinton was scorned as too measured and calculating. But neither was very good at speaking from the heart.
As an Authenticity Trainer, people told me again and again that if Trump’s brand of authenticity was considered heart-centered, that they wanted nothing to do with it.
So, if this is you, take a big deep breath.
Saying that all authenticity is heart-centered is like saying that all words impart wisdom. Obviously, they don’t.
After hearing (again) that authenticity equated speaking from the heart and I went “Live” on Facebook to set the record straight! This is a Facebook Live video—and the first on a new phone, so thanks for forgiving the lack of polish!
Authenticity is NOT Speaking from the Heart
So if authenticity is NOT speaking from the heart, then what is it? In a broad view, authenticity is simply communicating without self-editing and other filters. They key to effective authenticity that adds value and wisdom to a situation, builds relationships and connects you with your deep self, is to be communicating authentically from your heart center.
But that’s not the only aspect of yourself that you can communicate authentically from. There are three basic areas that you can speak authentically from:
Head: The head is the realm of learned information and stored patterns based on that information. The conscious mind is the realm of learned logic and ideas and makes up about 10% of the brain. The subconscious mind makes up 90% of the brain and stores your hidden patterns, most based on fear (just the way the brain encodes things, nothing personal. This applies to me, too.)
Gut: Gut instinct is often confused with intuition, which will be the topic of another blog & video because it is a really juicy topic. Trump is a self-avowed gut guy, and it has served him well in business. But the gut is also learned. It combines personal learning and experience, as well as ancestral. It trends toward emotional reaction and tends to operate in the “Us vs. Them” & tribal mode of thinking. Great for winning elections, apparently, but less effective for actual governing. Gut instinct is tied to the survival impulse, including emotional, financial and other kinds of survival.
Heart: Science has demonstrated that there is a field of subtle energy that connects everything, and the heart is the organ that interacts with this field. Yes, it sounds woo woo, but it’s science and has been for a while. When you are tapped into this field—when you are heart-centered, you are deeply connected with others and it shows when you communicate in this state.
True Authenticity is Speaking from the Heart
What I think of as true authenticity really is speaking from the heart. When you speak from the mind it often comes across as distant (except to other “head” people.) When you speak from emotion, it feels very real in the moment, but is an overlay of past pain over the present moment and often conflagrates rather than improves a situation.
True authenticity, to me, is being in that heart-centered space and communicating to the best of my ability from there, even as I experience mind thoughts, gut reactions and emotional pain. Being heart-centered isn’t an escape from all that, so if you try to shut out thoughts and emotions as a path to heart-centered living, you are missing the point.
Your heart-centered self encompasses all of you and all of life. It is the most open and transparent way of living I have ever experienced, being totally connected to all that is and to all of you, even the down and dirty that you try to hide.
Back to Trump & Authenticity
Even though he defaults to gut communication most of the time, we all can learn a lot from Trump about authenticity, because he’s a natural. It takes courage to speak extemporaneously without worrying what other people will think or how they will react. Trump often speaks authentically from the mind and ideas when he talks about real estate development. He also speaks authentically from the heart when he is candid about his family, and apparently in certain close relationships.
On stage, he was at his most authentically heart-centered during his acceptance speech—authentically humble and awed at the prospect of being president. It just lasted a moment, but it’s a great quality in a leader and as an American and an Authenticity Trainer, I’d like to see more of that.